Comments on: Pain Management http://www.earnestparenting.com/2008/03/03/pain-management/ Successes, failures, and a few funny stories about parenting. Sat, 22 Nov 2008 12:20:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Amy http://www.earnestparenting.com/2008/03/03/pain-management/#comment-906 Amy Wed, 05 Mar 2008 05:43:20 +0000 http://www.earnestparenting.com/2008/03/03/pain-management/#comment-906 Angie, no. I wrote the last point for me. Trying to bridge the gap between the way I deal with pain and the way the boys do is often difficult because I approach it with an extra 25 years of experience and perspective. I need to remember that, and keep in mind what they're learning when they watch me. Like hawks. Every moment. I know that you can be strong, my friend. Stronger than you may realize. Your daughter sees you getting up and starting again every day even when the cost is high. That means something, and will fortify her own will to persevere in difficulty. Angie, no. I wrote the last point for me. Trying to bridge the gap between the way I deal with pain and the way the boys do is often difficult because I approach it with an extra 25 years of experience and perspective. I need to remember that, and keep in mind what they’re learning when they watch me. Like hawks. Every moment.

I know that you can be strong, my friend. Stronger than you may realize. Your daughter sees you getting up and starting again every day even when the cost is high. That means something, and will fortify her own will to persevere in difficulty.

]]> By: Angie http://www.earnestparenting.com/2008/03/03/pain-management/#comment-904 Angie Wed, 05 Mar 2008 00:16:38 +0000 http://www.earnestparenting.com/2008/03/03/pain-management/#comment-904 Amy, did you write the last point for me? It hits home for me right now. I'm dealing with some difficult and painful issues with my daughter and it's a challenge daily to say "I'm not giving up." Sometimes I do feel defeated, but I get up each day and renew my strength in the battle. I know she needs me to be strong. She is just a teenage girl who is not fully equipped to deal with these struggles yet and she needs my help. But, you have me thinking about the fact that I am modeling my resolve for her. My motives haven't been well thought out, but I am hopeful that the outcome will be positive. Thank you for a well thought out and provoking post. Amy, did you write the last point for me? It hits home for me right now.
I’m dealing with some difficult and painful issues with my daughter and it’s a challenge daily to say “I’m not giving up.” Sometimes I do feel defeated, but I get up each day and renew my strength in the battle.
I know she needs me to be strong. She is just a teenage girl who is not fully equipped to deal with these struggles yet and she needs my help. But, you have me thinking about the fact that I am modeling my resolve for her. My motives haven’t been well thought out, but I am hopeful that the outcome will be positive. Thank you for a well thought out and provoking post.

]]> By: Amy http://www.earnestparenting.com/2008/03/03/pain-management/#comment-901 Amy Tue, 04 Mar 2008 18:01:22 +0000 http://www.earnestparenting.com/2008/03/03/pain-management/#comment-901 @Evan: Hmmm. You've got me thinking. I don't know that I concretely understand what the process would be. If you happen to blog (or have blogged) that one, come back and let me know. I'd be very interested! @Michelle: Okay now you have me thinking too. :) I am open to the idea that emotional pain manifests physically. If that's happening with me, it's pretty deep seated. Forgiveness and working through issues has been a (painfully) large portion of my life for quite some time now. To my knowledge I am at peace with all but one situation, and I am gradually letting go of that one. This makes me lean toward more conventional solutions, like relaxing and strengthening the muscles. Again, though, I'd be very interested in more of your thoughts on the topic. @Blaine: Wow. I've experienced just a fraction of that, where it hurts so much that additional pressure doesn't register. But nothing like what your mother and so many others suffer. That adds another point to the list: Pain makes you tougher. Give your mom a gentle hug for me. She's definitely got my respect. @Evan: Hmmm. You’ve got me thinking. I don’t know that I concretely understand what the process would be. If you happen to blog (or have blogged) that one, come back and let me know. I’d be very interested!

@Michelle: Okay now you have me thinking too. :) I am open to the idea that emotional pain manifests physically. If that’s happening with me, it’s pretty deep seated. Forgiveness and working through issues has been a (painfully) large portion of my life for quite some time now. To my knowledge I am at peace with all but one situation, and I am gradually letting go of that one. This makes me lean toward more conventional solutions, like relaxing and strengthening the muscles. Again, though, I’d be very interested in more of your thoughts on the topic.

@Blaine: Wow. I’ve experienced just a fraction of that, where it hurts so much that additional pressure doesn’t register. But nothing like what your mother and so many others suffer. That adds another point to the list: Pain makes you tougher. Give your mom a gentle hug for me. She’s definitely got my respect.

]]> By: Blaine Moore http://www.earnestparenting.com/2008/03/03/pain-management/#comment-900 Blaine Moore Tue, 04 Mar 2008 13:51:58 +0000 http://www.earnestparenting.com/2008/03/03/pain-management/#comment-900 My mother has every single point of fibromyalgia (however it is spelled) so she is in pretty constant pain. A year or so back, she needed to have a test done on her elbow before surgery, and it was one of those tests where they stick the 9 inch needle in your arm and is extremely painful. The doctor looked at her as he was doing it and asked if her arm was numb. "No," she said, "why?" "Because most people are screaming or passing out right now from the pain." It hurt, but she is in pain so often that it wasn't anything special. At least she was finally able to convince them that her problem with her arm was a real issue and not just the fibromyalgia acting up. My mother has every single point of fibromyalgia (however it is spelled) so she is in pretty constant pain. A year or so back, she needed to have a test done on her elbow before surgery, and it was one of those tests where they stick the 9 inch needle in your arm and is extremely painful.

The doctor looked at her as he was doing it and asked if her arm was numb. “No,” she said, “why?”

“Because most people are screaming or passing out right now from the pain.”

It hurt, but she is in pain so often that it wasn’t anything special. At least she was finally able to convince them that her problem with her arm was a real issue and not just the fibromyalgia acting up.

]]> By: Michelle Vandepas http://www.earnestparenting.com/2008/03/03/pain-management/#comment-899 Michelle Vandepas Tue, 04 Mar 2008 13:28:54 +0000 http://www.earnestparenting.com/2008/03/03/pain-management/#comment-899 I've had shoulder pain from an old injury for years. I've also been working on what emotions were trapped inside the shoulder. Once there is a weak spot, that is where all the emotions will just go lay and stay, keeping the pain and the injury! After I was able to finally let go of all the emotions, the pain went away. I’ve had shoulder pain from an old injury for years. I’ve also been working on what emotions were trapped inside the shoulder. Once there is a weak spot, that is where all the emotions will just go lay and stay, keeping the pain and the injury! After I was able to finally let go of all the emotions, the pain went away.

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