Comments on: Does Your Parenting Suffer From Legalism?

By: Karen (Karooch from Scraps of Mind)

Karen (Karooch from Scraps of Mind) — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 05:44:22 +0000

This is really thought provoking for so many aspects of life Amy. I always tried to give my daughter reasons behind the ‘orders’ I gave her and I found that it tended to work because she applied her logic to them and recognised that it was not just ‘because Mum says so’. Although I will admit to using that tactic when my back was up against the wall.

By: Amy

Amy — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 20:17:06 +0000

@Raymond: Thank you.

@On Living: Yes, that’s such a great point!

By: On Living By Learning

On Living By Learning — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 19:50:21 +0000

Isn’t this about respect? Respecting your children enough to explain why you choose to do things a certain way, and allowing them to respect your choices.

Thanks for a thought-provoking article!

By: Raymond Chua

Raymond Chua — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 06:08:50 +0000

I love it when you say that, “we were doing things a certain way out of love and not out of legalism”.

It makes so much sense.

By: Amy

Amy — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 03:01:27 +0000

@Evan: On some level, I think we’re saying the same thing. Legalistic behavior is part of what has caused the offense that feminists have towards men. My question about submission probably skipped a logical thought or two. I won’t go on long, because it’s not really connected to parenting. I think it’s the generalities and broad extensions of that offense that I was pondering when I asked the question. I do choose to submit to my husband (to the best of my ability anyhow); however, he is a fantastic human being worth sacrificing my pride for. It’s not completely certain I would have made the same choice had I somehow managed to marry a boor. Although, as I grow in my faith and understanding of Scripture, I do see the wisdom of humility in any situation. Thanks very much for your wonderful review on SU.

@Craig: Thank you so much! Glad you stopped by the blog.